It can’t be all roses and unicorns?

It can’t be roses and unicorns all the time......right?? We all want our lives to be a bundle of pure happiness and joy and with the array of social media platforms we have access to now a days, what’s posted tends to be the best days, the nicest holidays, the best flawless makeup, the most happy, exciting, easy relationships and the fastest, effortless, weight loss and amazing bodies but every, single, one of those posts comes with hard work, struggle, very low points, doubt and the want to give up. That’s life. You need to apply the fact that we aren’t perfect, nothing is perfect, (what even is perfect) and it’s ok. We develop and grow as people in the best ways that we are supposed to when obstacles are put In front of us, whatever that may be, we just have to be patient.

I even find it difficult to write that concept down because I’m far from patient and that, I think, is something I will have to work on for a long, long time. The only way we can grow and get on in this world, overcome obstacles, pain and suffering, is to accept the fact we aren’t perfect and live accordingly, whatever that may be and know that the struggle determines our success.

An example, my mum was ill for 13 years after being diagnosed with stage 4 terminal breast cancer, then bone, lymphatic and bone cancer. Was given a number of prognosis’s, time limits etc but superseded all of them and a lot of it had to do with how strong her mind and attitude was. There were many a moment of heart break, struggle and wanting to give up from her but she fought on and you can to. Anyone can with the right mindset. Life is tough, it deals you some shitty cards sometimes but it’s how you react to them that can make all the difference. You can deal with anything with the right mindset. Pain exists for a reason. Use it to learn, grow and develop into the person you want to be.

It is so hard, so so hard and I certainly have times where my mindset is in the gutter, so very low and negative. I’m so critical of myself, that I can’t do something or don’t like the way I do it and I feel like a failure. During those times, I really have to look back on the last year and half and see what I have been able to achieve and give myself a break. Life is a work in progress. A journey. Learn from mistakes and try, try again.

There has been many a time where I want to ‘throw in the towel’ so to speak. Before my nerve transplant surgery, I wanted my arm to be cut off. I was far from engaging in life. I didn’t want to walk out of the house on my own. I really felt, what was the point of living? Why did I have to survive the fall and why couldn’t I just have died? Luckily for me, I got bored of that mindset. I wanted more from my life whatever that may be. I didn’t have a clue what that meant, what I was going to do or what my career was going to be now but I knew what I loved doing and that’s all that mattered.

Life really isn’t as complicated as we make it out to be and it isn’t roses and unicorns all the time. It shouldn’t be and that’s ok. Use it to your advantage and be the person you want to be.